Ramzan Food Festival - Frazer Town Part 1

Hey There, This is my first time with the vlog, and purely the intention was experimental. I would call it an impromptu video. I created this video during my recent visit to Bangalore's Frazer town with my friends during the Ramzan food festival .  

A picture speaks a thousand words while a video speaks a million . Thanks to my friends for being a part of this fun activity.

                        Heart knows no reason what so ever, it just loves and loves forever.

Happiness comes from love and freedom to be yourself ,
Freedom is not devoid of emotions
Freedom is devoid of bondage
Freedom is not devoid of devotion
Freedom is when you know where you have to return.

It is going to be 1 year of our marriage. Although, it has been a long distance relationship, but still there is a string that holds us together. When I look back at the one year that is gone by, I still cannot believe how two different individuals, and by different, I mean ,completely contra-distinctive personalities. If one is Earth, the other is air, if one is day, the other is night, but still we are together. It goes beyond my understanding , why and how we met . But, what lies ahead is an unseen journey and it will unfold with every year.

So, there are a list of characteristics that I like in my husband, and some of them are getting imbedded in me too.

He is a very patient person (and patience is one thing which I never possessed from childhood. I can't wait for good things to happen, I almost always work on impulse, when it comes to day to day activities)

He is not dominating or forceful ,but he makes it clear what he wants in a subtle way.

He likes to include me in most of the things he does. He sees "us " instead of "me" .I remember, when I am sitting alone and or having food alone, he would call me and ask me to be with him. He doesnt like me to be alone.

He is protective and caring. If I am not around, he looks for me, where I went missing.

He helps me with the household chores. That is like a little kid helping mom with chopping the vegetables, doing the dishes, or removing the furniture while I am cleaning the floor.

He does certain things just for my sake, like coming over to meet me, when I am in town. Even if that requires a 1.5 hrs journey after office,he manages to make it even if it is late 11.30 in the night.

He has a keen sense of practical world. I almost fail to see the practical realities of the world, but he keeps me grounded. I am a dreamer and visionary. I do things with a future pay off model in front of me. This is one reason, why I never ignore what he advises me to do.

Many a times it has happened, that my overconfidence has failed , and his simple thinking has proved out to be right. So , I decided , I will drop my arms, when it comes to some practical decision making session.

If there is anything that I have learnt in my marriage- It would be patience. Sometimes it is boring , because by nature I am an impulsive person, but then I do not have a choice to be impatient. I like to fly in the air, just don't care about the tomorrow, live in the moment, pack my bags and go for a short trip. These adventures are still on my "Wishlist"

Oh, by the way I forgot, that he doesnt like gifting flowers and I love flowers of all sorts.........

Zindagi

Jab miloge mujhse, tumko main batlaungi

Tumko apne paas bitha kar, khoob sara batiyaungi

Puchungi tumse, kahan kho gaye the tum

Aisa kya hua, jo ho gaye tum mujhse gum

Tumhare sapne aankho me the sajaye

Tumne hi un sapno ki vajah the dikhaye

kahan gaye vo din ,jab the tum muskuraye

Ab to vo pal sirf yaadon me hain samaye

Tumse guft-agu karne ki tamanna hai jaagi

Kab miloge mujhse itna to bata do

Tumhe kahan dhundu - Ae zindagi

mujhe tum batla do.

Vo dono ek dusre me aise ghul jate the jaise paani me shakkar ke danane

Iftifaq to aisa hai, ke naam dono ka ek hai but seeyat ek dusre se alag

ek pyar ki paribhasha hai , to dusra vastavikta ki murat

ek uspe jaan lutata tha to dusre ko is baat ki ilam bhi nahi ke usme bhi jaan hai

vo uski ek hassi ki khatir kuch bhi kar sakta tha , dusra uski hassi ki vajah ko hassi me uda deta hai

Vo uski aankhon se aansu ko behne se pehle rok deta tha , dusra aankho me bhare aansu ko pehchaan bhi nahi paata

Usne behad mohabbat kar ke bhi saath chhod dia to dusre ne mohabbat na hone pe bhi sath nibhane ka vada kar liya.

Marriage

I got married on 23rd May 2014. If there is one thing that I would describe my wedding, it has to be-- chaotic and Sudden. Right from the day I met my husband to the day we got married.

And then in the retrospect, on 23rd May, it started early morning and the rituals were solemnized early next morning. 

Lo and behold! we were married, and the first expression that came to my mind after the wedding concluded -- 

"Is this all ? Am I married now ? Thank God, this has to happen only once in a life time."A transition from one family to another, believe it or not, I never felt even a single day of being a stranger or lonely in my new home and family. 

Everything seemed to be same, nothing changed. There was not an iota of that feeling of leaving my parents and having a new set of parents. The culture, the values have all been the same.

I will always consider myself blessed having the best in-laws in the world.

But all that said, I try to find the meaning of my marriage. I have a long distance relationship, which comes with its own set of challenges and advantages. A long distance does not work without trust and sense of belonging. At the end of the day each of the partners should know that that they belong to each other and their loyalty and fidelity should be towards each other. 

I have no insecurity in my marriage and the long distance relationship that I am a part of. One reason is that it helps me maintain my individuality and the other is I know that I am not alone. At the end of the day, if I am in some turmoil, I know who I have to turn to, and who will never leave my side.

That trust and faith keeps me going on. And while people find it strange that how can married couple live apart for so long, well , even I don't know, but I like the fact that I am not moving with the norms of the Indian society. The funny part is that whenever I meet my husband every month, it is like we are more as friends and we are in the process of getting to know each other, which in itself is fun and challenge at the same time. 

I and my husband are totally opposite beings on this planet. What got us together, I do not know. 

But still there is something that is so strong inside the heart and mind -- "He is my husband, I am his wife."And this is the only permanent relationship in the world.

They say marriages are made in heaven and God chooses the best one for you. I have got to believe in that.