Saturday, February 7, 2015

Marriage


I got married on 23rd May 2014. If there is one thing that I would describe my wedding, it has to be-- chaotic and Sudden. Right from the day I met my husband to the day we got married.

And then in the retrospect, on 23rd May, it started early morning and the rituals were solemnized early next morning. 
Lo and behold! we were married, and the first expression that came to my mind after the wedding concluded -- 
"Is this all ? Am I married now ? Thank God, this has to happen only once in a life time."A transition from one family to another, believe it or not, I never felt even a single day of being a stranger or lonely in my new home and family. 
Everything seemed to be same, nothing changed. There was not an iota of that feeling of leaving my parents and having a new set of parents. The culture, the values have all been the same.
I will always consider myself blessed having the best in-laws in the world.

But all that said, I try to find the meaning of my marriage. I have a long distance relationship, which comes with its own set of challenges and advantages. A long distance does not work without trust and sense of belonging. At the end of the day each of the partners should know that that they belong to each other and their loyalty and fidelity should be towards each other. 

I have no insecurity in my marriage and the long distance relationship that I am a part of. One reason is that it helps me maintain my individuality and the other is I know that I am not alone. At the end of the day, if I am in some turmoil, I know who I have to turn to, and who will never leave my side.
That trust and faith keeps me going on. And while people find it strange that how can married couple live apart for so long, well , even I don't know, but I like the fact that I am not moving with the norms of the Indian society. The funny part is that whenever I meet my husband every month, it is like we are more as friends and we are in the process of getting to know each other, which in itself is fun and challenge at the same time. 

I and my husband are totally opposite beings on this planet. What got us together, I do not know. 
But still there is something that is so strong inside the heart and mind -- "He is my husband, I am his wife."And this is the only permanent relationship in the world.
They say marriages are made in heaven and God chooses the best one for you. I have got to believe in that.